Pet Loss and Bereavement Support
Mojo’s Hope and Alaska's KAAATs are pleased to add that one of our founders successfully completed the pet loss counseling course through the organization, The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement.
With this certification, Mojo's Hope and Alaska's KAAATs offer counseling support and more to our PAWspice Community Program. We want to be able to continue to offer this type of emotional support for people going through this very difficult process.
Death can be such an uncomfortable topic for many people. We think it's important to see it, this last stage, and demystify it, make it less scary and sad while honoring the ones we love. Our own experiences with the loss of our beloved pets have helped to shape our understanding and provide us with the opportunity to help others.
As an animal advocacy organization and rescue group for animals with special needs, we want to be able to offer support for people who go through this difficult process, before, during, and afterward. We are offering this support in whatever capacity needed. Maybe you need a ride, maybe you need to talk through the process, or maybe you may need someone to hold your hand as you say your final goodbye. We will help to guide you through these steps by offering compassionate, empathetic, and individualized support.
Pet Loss and Bereavement Counseling Services
For support, you can reach us at firstname.lastname@example.org, visit us on our Facebook page or give us a call at 907-230-6394. (I am a full-time Special Education teacher, so my availability to respond is generally in the evenings and weekends.)
Alaska Pet Loss & Bereavement Counselor:
Every Wednesday evening at 7pm AKT, we hold a Private Chat Room available for Pet Owners. We are moving the Chat Room to a ZOOM session. The same link will be available each week and when you join, it will remain private and anonymous.
To join us, just click HERE and this will take you to our ZOOM session. We ask that when you join, purrlease use a nickname and leave your camera off. This will continue to be a safe and private place where pet owners can join for support.
Grieving Tips for a Beloved Lost Pet
Please visit The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement website for more supports.
They offer chatrooms, counselors and more!
Article from Psychology Today: 7 Self-Care Essentials while Grieving the Death of a Pet
Coping With the Death of Your Pet (from "Loss of a Pet's" Facebook page)
How to take care of yourself, your family, and other pets when you’ve had to say goodbye
Our pets bring so much companionship, support, and love into our lives that it’s natural to grieve when a pet dies. When a person you love dies, it’s natural to feel sorrow, express grief, and expect friends and family to provide understanding and comfort. Unfortunately, you don’t always get that understanding when a pet dies. Some people still don’t understand how central animals can be in people’s lives, and a few may not get why you’re grieving over “just a pet.”
Members of the family
We know how much pets mean to most people. People love their pets and consider them members of their family. Caregivers often celebrate their pets’ birthdays, confide in their animals and carry pictures of them in their wallets. So when a beloved pet dies, it’s not unusual to feel overwhelmed by the intensity of your sorrow.
Animals provide companionship, acceptance, emotional support, and unconditional love. If you understand and accept this bond between humans and animals, you’ve already taken the first step toward coping with pet loss: knowing that it is okay to grieve when your pet dies.
Finding ways to cope with your loss can bring you closer to the day when memories bring smiles instead of tears.
The grief process
The grief process is as individual as the person, lasting days for one person, years for another. The process typically begins with denial, which offers protection until individuals can realize their loss.
Some caregivers may try bargaining with a higher power, themselves, or even their pet to restore life. Some feel anger, which may be directed at anyone involved with the pet, including family, friends, and veterinarians. Caregivers may also feel guilt about what they did or did not do; they may feel that it is inappropriate for them to be so upset.
After these feelings subside, caregivers may experience true sadness or grief. They may become withdrawn or depressed. Acceptance occurs when they accept the reality of their loss and remember their animal companion with decreasing sadness.
Coping with grief
While grief is a personal experience, you need not face your loss alone. Many forms of support are available, including pet-bereavement counseling services, pet-loss support hotlines, local or online pet-bereavement groups, books, videos, and magazine articles.
Here are a few suggestions to help you cope:
• Acknowledge your grief and give yourself permission to express it.
• Don’t hesitate to reach out to others who can lend a sympathetic ear. Do a little research online and you’ll find hundreds of resources and support groups that may be helpful to you.
• Write about your feelings, either in a journal or a poem, essay, or short story.
• Call your veterinarian or local humane society to see whether they offer a pet-loss support group or hotline, or can refer you to one.
• Prepare a memorial for your pet.
The loss of a pet may be a child’s first experience with death. The child may blame themself, their parents, or the veterinarian for not saving the pet. And they may feel guilty, depressed, and frightened that others they love may be taken from them. Trying to protect your child by saying the pet ran away could cause your child to expect the pet’s return and feel betrayed after discovering the truth. Expressing your own grief may reassure your child that sadness is ok and help them work through their feelings.
Coping with the loss of a pet can be particularly hard for seniors. Those who live alone may feel a loss of purpose and an immense emptiness. A pet’s death may also trigger painful memories of other losses and remind caregivers of their own mortality. What’s more, the decision to get another pet is complicated by the possibility that the pet may outlive the caregiver and that the decision to get another pet hinges on the person’s physical and financial ability to care for a new pet. For all these reasons, it’s critical that senior pet owners take immediate steps to cope with their loss and regain a sense of purpose. If you are a senior, try interacting with friends and family, calling a pet-loss support hotline, even volunteering at a local humane society.
Surviving pets may whimper, refuse to eat or drink, and suffer lethargy, especially if they had a close bond with the deceased pet. Even if they were not the best of friends, the changing circumstances and your emotional state may distress them. (However, if your remaining pets continue to act out of sorts, there could actually be a medical problem that requires your veterinarian’s attention.) Give surviving pets lots of TLC and try to maintain a normal routine. It’s good for them and for you.
Getting another pet
Rushing into this decision isn’t fair to you or your new pet. Each animal has their own unique personality and a new animal cannot replace the one you lost. You’ll know when the time is right to adopt a new pet after giving yourself time to grieve, considering whether you’re ready, and paying close attention to your feelings. When you’re ready, remember that your local animal shelter or rescue is a great place to find your next special friend.